Saturday, September 8, 2012

DIARY OF A MAD WOMAN ON THE PATH TO ENLIGHTENMENT THRU 090812


CHAPTER 23: 14 Days…Tai Chi Withdrawal Is Setting In!
            September 1st, 2012

             It has been a full fourteen days since my last lesson (a private Chi treatment with Shifu). I have not been able to attend any classes since that time because my asthma and illness have spiraled out of control. Instead, I have practiced what he taught me in that treatment at least once a day, every day except for last Wednesday when I spiked a fever of 101 for three days, as that is the day my health took a serious turn for the worse.  Since then, I have been battling to stay out of the hospital with a bacterial and/or fungal infection in my lungs. The night chills and fevers, the “black circles of death” around my eyes, and the bronchial “bark” that so effectively clears elevators have all returned.  The battle is on!

            I am now under the care of my Pulmonologist, nearly always the admitting doctor for me, who has taken a very aggressive approach to treatment in order to try to avoid hospitalization.  I am on a large, extended dose of Prednisone (5 weeks minimum), do nebulizer treatments at least 2x/day (optimally three), and am still taking an antiviral, antifungal, and now a new antibiotic.  I have a “swish & swallow” elixir that I must use 4x/day…and…and…and…  As you can see, the intensity of this treatment leaves little time to do anything else. BUT…I am practicing Tai Chi at home and it is doing something positive for me.

            As more and more bugs come on, one never clearing before the next, it is easy to feel beaten and get depressed.  And even though I have done this hundreds of times before, it is natural to get anxious about the outcome. The cycles are becoming longer, the bugs more resistant, the disease; following the natural course of progression. For some reason this time, I am more anxious than ever before.  Perhaps it is because my mind and body are communicating more easily? I can tell you my mind knew long before I allowed myself to acknowledge that I was seriously ill, that I was trending downward.  The anxiousness has been there in the background for the past three weeks, increasing ever so slightly by the day.  I usually do not experience this until a day or two before I am admitted to the hospital.  In the past “anxiousness” has been my body’s final scream when I have hit the wall and met with exhaustion. It always ends in hospitalization.

            So what is Tai Chi doing for me?  First, I credit Tai Chi with having facilitated mind body communication enough (to this point) that “anxiousness” is now a signal, not a last reaction to an already irreversible health disaster.  When I am engaged in a health crisis, every signal is critical to early intervention and treatment.  I have several of them, whose details I won’t go into, that unfold in a certain, predictable pattern that alert me to “something going on” and its progression.  Responding to these signals by slowing down, beginning nebulizer treatments, eating healthy, sleeping more, checking blood sugars more frequently and tightening control over highs, are what I should  do immediately, not what I do do.

            I usually go through periods of 1) acknowledgement “something’s going on”, 2) a heightened sense of “the sky is falling” mentality, 3) reacting to the fear that I am “going down again” by doing the exact opposite of the things I should do in the face of those signals.  Is it anger?  Is it a mindset that, ‘death be damned, I’m going to get every ounce of my life while I’m here?’  Or is it a conditioned survival reaction to my primal fear of being dependent on anyone else?  Perhaps it’s a little of all.  That being said, don’t be too quick to judge me.

            You see, I am no different than any of you.  These things I should do are inconvenient.  They interfere with the life I want to live, and the time frame in which I can do it.  They “slow me down” considerably, and it has become a habit of mine to put up my dukes and fight hard every day to keep going regardless of the mountains that drop from the heavens.  As I said before, I walk a tightrope every day, as all of us do to some extent, and sometimes I just want to throw down the umbrella and “be like everybody else.”  Healthy people can afford to do that, even though it isn’t the smartest response for anybody. The consequence might be one or two days knocked into bed because a germ got a hold.  I can’t afford to do that because once a germ gets a hold of me, it has me in its scope, aiming for the most lethal, direct path to anarchy; to dictatorship.

            My family yells at me for doing too much at these times. People offer sage advice, words of wisdom I know are true and that I should adhere to.  But always in the background during these crises is a whopping high dose of Prednisone for lengthy weeks, sometimes months, at a time that drives me to do just the opposite. Did you know that one of the side effects of “long term” Prednisone therapy is manic behavior, even psychosis?  It’s true.  Another is OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder).  Have you ever been in the presence of someone where these conditions were operating in tandem? Trust me, you wouldn’t want to be; I assure you it is not pretty.

            For some reason, unknown to my medical team, my body does not (never has) synthesized Prednisone (a man-made form of the body’s natural hormone, cortisone) appropriately.  A normal body produces 7mg of cortisone daily on a non-stressful, average day. 7mg is needed just to survive.  More is produced by the adrenal glands exactly as needed (when injured, sick, stressed, etc.).  Lots of cortisone floods the body in an emergency triggered by the “fight or flight response” (an auto accident, the death of a loved one, even divorce). My adrenal glands do not function any more, having atrophied from 21 years of constant steroid dependent asthma. So every bit of cortisone my body needs is delivered in the form of Prednisone (a synthetic hormone made to mimic the effects of the body’s naturally produced cortisone).

         Because my body cannot synthesize Prednisone appropriate, my dose during a health crisis is anywhere from 2-4x what the average patient needs to respond to treatment. It is so over the top that the other attending docs in my Pulmonologists practice won’t touch it when I am hospitalized.  They don’t feel comfortable prescribing it because they know the consequences to mind and body when they do.  They personally won’t adjust it (begin to taper it down) for the duration of my hospital stay because they have done it before against my advice, and witnessed my body’s rebound reaction to having tapered too much or too soon.  I always leave the hospital on 80mg of oral Prednisone/day, and I am never able to begin a taper sooner than two to three weeks.  Then I must taper very slowly to avoid rebound reactions and a second hospitalization.  My point is this; manic, obsessive, sometimes even psychotic behavior becomes a part of my life during a health crisis – exactly at the time you can least afford to indulge it.

            If you’ve ever seen a drug addict going through withdrawal in an effort to “get clean” you have a pretty good picture of what I go through when my Prednisone taper hits about 25-30mg a day.  I have tremors, sweats, manic anxiousness, my pupils dilate, and I want to crawl out of my own skin, I can’t and don’t sleep for days at a time, I eat everything in the house any time of day or night.  I try to fight it, but Prednisone wires me so badly that I literally can’t sit still.  I sweat out of my clothing at least 3x/day resulting in a weight loss of up to 20lbs over 3-4 months of tapering (partly a function of the significant increase in heart rate for the duration of therapy).  I am short tempered, ill-mannered with my family, and become obsessive about (of all things) the cleanliness of my house.

That withdrawal fades very slowly as the Prednisone dose drops (never tapering more than 5-10mg/week), but the symptoms never disappear completely until I am on 5mg or less (25mg of Hydrocortisone is my maintenance steroid dose).  And all of this combines with pounding fast heart rate, constant shortness of breath and wheezing such that I cannot leave my home for weeks, sometimes months at a time.

            A year ago, watching me go through this, my doctors got together and decided to try something different.  I was prescribed non-narcotic medications whose sole purpose is to relax you; to take the “edge” off, like Valium.  I don’t know exactly whose idea that was, but they are on my list of superhero’s in the medical community.  It works!  I don’t become addicted though others might, because apparently I don’t have that addiction gene (my refrigerator would beg to differ).  I don’t have to take much to be able to re-enter society without being trussed like “Hannibal Lechter”.  Most importantly, it curbs the incessant aching to crawl out of my skin.

            I tell you all this so that you will clearly understand what Tai Chi means to me. I’m sure you’d agree how critical it is for someone with this profile to learn to relax; to learn to control relaxation as well as I don’t control my panic – in other words, to restore order and peace to a system previously in free-fall.  Several times over the course of this illness cycle I have found myself winding up like a spring driven toy. But wherever I was, I closed my eyes, took deep controlled breaths, and performed a couple basic Tai Chi/Gong movements.  In spite of the Prednisone dose, the anxiousness signal, the desire to escape from my own skin, I relaxed.  I relaxed so completely that I felt the effect on my heart rate and even my blood pressure.  The effects of doing that remained with me for hours, and even drug interactions and stress exuding people around me did not tempt me back into that panicky, conditioned behavior. To achieve all that, how can mind and body not be communicating?  That is what Tai Chi is doing for me.

 
            Try it!


CHAPTER 24: Confessions of a Mad Woman
September 8th, 2012

 Hi, I’m Tamra and it has been 22 days since my last Tai Chi lesson.  (The audience oohs’ and ahhh’s)  “Hi Tammy”, they say and I sit down in a chair feeling like the consummate “drop out”.

 It is true; I have been physically unable to attend Tai Chi class since August 17th .  BOY, do I miss it!  I have been doing Tai Chi along with Shifu’s Tai Gong DVD.  I love it, but it’s just not the same.  I’ve had to look at it as a time to memorize the order of the movements and perfect their form in order to quell my growing sense of self-disappointment.  Again, it seems the world is passing me by.  I wonder what my Tai Chi friends have been taught; what they have already mastered.  If I return to morning classes any time soon, will I even recognize where they are?  How do I go forward from here?  I’m not comfortable with that uncertainty, yet I refuse to allow disease to rob me of this experience.  Perhaps that’s why I have immersed myself in the independent volunteer work I am doing for the school; it helps keep it close.  I do so miss my Shaolin friends though!

            Last night I went to the school to meet and greet a new prospective student who was coming to participate in his first class of a two week trial of Kung Fu Panda.  I’ve had many telephone conversations with his father, all leading up to getting him to take advantage of this offer, because these are the kind of people who epitomize what Shaolin is all about.  I did not know that John was Asian, but after meeting him, it made sense.  Like most Asian parents I have met, he and his wife are seriously engaged in their five year old son’s life.  They are keenly aware of what he loves (animals, bugs, and their movement), and have searched for unique ways to take advantage of that love while creatively educating.  That is what led them to the idea of pursuing Kung Fu classes for their son.  When he told me that I realized that the box he thinks within is so much bigger than the box I thought within when my children were 5 years old. 

            Now, I’ve never seen the Kung Fu Panda class or its students, as I am usually attending Tai Chi in the morning or later, at 7:00pm. I was feeling very sick and had to force myself to go because I had made this commitment and a promise to a parent I want to see join the school.  I arrived half an hour early and had the joy of watching the arrival of the six or more students who regularly attend Kung Fu Panda class at 5:00pm.  I don’t often get that close to children 5 to 7 years old because of the limitations set by my autoimmune disease.  Oh, how I miss that exposure (not the germs mind you; but the experience of observing them).  Many of the children in the class are Asian, but not all.  Even with all their unbridled energy in full view before class, they were incredibly gracious, welcoming, and polite.  My new student couldn’t help but feel welcome because they went out of their way to make him feel so.  Sarah introduced me and John to the other parents, all of whom stayed around in the viewing room to watch their children’s class.  One or two fathers even attend the class with their children.  I was told that even the mothers and sisters of a few of the students sometimes attend, or attend an adult class in an adjoining room.  These families have chosen to embrace the benefits of Shaolin martial arts wholly.  I can’t imagine what a different developmental environment that yields for their children.  It was obvious in how their children behaved and how they related to adults like me.  I asked a couple 5 year old students if they would take my newbie under their wings and they enthusiastically agreed, running into the classroom and telling the other kids to come and meet the new guy with the enthusiasm of a child getting a new puppy.

            My only point of reference for this whole experience was my limited participation in my older son’s roller/ice hockey activities.  For many years my husband coached Blake’s teams, and when he did, I met phenomenal parents, all cut from ther same values.  When he stopped coaching and my son’s participation continued, on each team he played I found some very dedicated parents with hearts of gold.  But I also was exposed to the same team toxic parents over and over again, whose intentions were self-serving to the extreme.  They seemed to revel in doing anything possible they could conceive of to advance their child.  It seemed they were even more delighted when it came at the expense of a fellow teammate.  I did not handle it well, and had to separate myself completely from it because it brought out the “ugly” in me, no matter how hard I tried to rise above it.  You see, my son was repeatedly one of those mother’s targets.

           I know from having spoken with other parents, that the same dynamic exists abundantly on the ever so competitive baseball, football, and soccer teams; enough so, that some parents chose to pull their very talented young player from teams and sever all future ties to the sport, effectively throwing away lucrative scholarship opportunities in order to preserve their child’s innocence and self-esteem. That we as parents create that dynamic is a tragedy.

Perhaps that is the greatest benefit of Shaolin martial arts…there is no tolerance of that behavior.  At age five these kids are being honored for who they are.  They are respected and are expected to demonstrate that respect in return.  The fundamental lessons that we as parents struggle to teach; respect, focus, discipline, honor; are all incorporated into this program in a way that positively reinforces our efforts.  Maybe, I’m bias, but I swear I perceived the difference immediately.  I love children, but not all children love me.  So when I find a child or a group of children who I can relate to easily in a loving, funny, light manner…I’m in Heaven!  Every one of these students was an angel to me. 

They say that certain encounters/interactions produce a positive effect on us that can be scientifically measured in terms of reduced blood pressure, lowering our heart rate, causing stress hormone secretions to drop, in essence, making our body smile.  That is what this experience did for me.  I really felt physically ill, I hadn’t slept more than 4 hours in 3 days, I had a fever, but I was not cognizant of these things while there interacting with the Kung FU students at the school.  They set me so at ease in fact, that the usually stressful process for me of introducing myself to a crowd or helping make another adult feel welcome, disappeared.  No…correction, they never even surfaced.  I went to make a family feel welcome, and instead, families welcomed me.  There is no greater medicinal therapy than finding yourself in a place where there is no struggle to be “one of the group”.  Those types of “pure” environments are created when people have no ulterior motives; unfortunately I’ve found, none too often.

I don’t know if my newbie will sign up at the end of his Kung Fu Panda trial.  I certainly hope he will.  I don’t earn anything from him doing so, yet I would gain so much just knowing that because of my added efforts, one more child will get an exceptional introduction to teamsmanship, sportsmanship, and unconditional acceptance (not to mention the benefits derived from immersion in the Asian mind-set).

So if you ever need a pick-me-up, or your feel a sense of hopelessness, visit the school Monday, Wednesday, or Friday around 5:00pm and just observe…and just be.  You won’t be sorry that you did.


PS:  Wear a germ mask!

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